As I sit here with the girls watching them eat lunch I can't help but think of how lucky I am to have both of them. They are both wonderful and unique...and simply meant to be my daughters.
I also can't help but think of some of the ignorant comments that I have heard this week.
People really are ignorant. They will say things to you that they would never ever say if you were a biologically formed family. As a Mother of two daughters who are asian I expect people to ask questions and that is okay when they are respectful. I do wish that people would just ask me NORMAL questions sometimes...like "How old are they" or "What preschool does your daughter attend"?....but realistically that is not always going to happen. :) BUT-When they start to ask a barrage of personal questions and in front of my girls I get very angry. This week I have tried to simply cut inappropriate questions off before they start while still being polite.
A sampling of the questions and comments have been:
"Is she yours"?
(Duh....she calls me MOMMY)!
"Do they like to eat noodles"?
(Huh?! Yeah like all toddlers they like carbs...they also love Mexican food).
"Where was she found"?
(Excuse me but that is nobodys business).
"How much does it cost"?
(My children did not "cost" anything and how are the adoption fees your business)?
"Yeah- China does not want their girls. The parents just throw them away or kill them".
(Wow, did you just say that out loud? And in front of my daughter? China has a very different government and set of rules regarding pregnancy and families. Both of my daughter's birth mothers had to make a very, very difficult choice. I am grateful that they were strong enough to give their beautiful daughters a chance to have a good life).
Honestly I could go on and on with more examples, but I have made my point. Other adoptive Moms who read my blog will "get it".
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